How to communicate effectively in Three steps:
1) The power of simply listening!
* Listening is not a lost art. As your mate/partner is talking and you are wanting to say something:
Write your thoughts down, when its your time to speak not only will you be able to respond but your mate /partner will feel like they've been heard.
This will not be an easy task, but in the end after some practice the benefits are priceless. This practice gives a fairness to both you and your mate/partner, it will allow you both to share your thoughts, feelings, and hurts without raised voices.
2) Being open to change!
Relationships are forever changing. Sometimes the changes needing to be made are not always fair, so setting down and writing out what each of you are willing to do is a great start. Then talking over what each of you have written, then deciding were to begin together.
3) Create your own six month check-up!
Example: Every January and June you and your mate/partner would have an open conversation of the problems/progress in your relationship. This can be challenging if their are unspoken hurts, anger, or bitter thoughts. Write down what's going well in your relationship, next write what needs to be changed, then share with your mate/partner your thoughts and feelings. This practice will show if you both are on the same page, nothing going unsaid, and you both will have clarity.
